Sisterhood: A Poem

by Jen on October 22, 2014

Editor’s Note: this a guest post by Laura Probert.

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I’ve fallen

Head over heels

For this sisterhood

How it feels

To be celebrated

And loved

For me.

 

I’m grateful

In deep blessing

For this friendship

My soul resting

Nourished

No rules

Just be free.

 

I’m in awe

Carried away

By these women

What they say

Lifts me up

So high

I can soar.

 

I’m out loud

In full expression

This kinship

I’m guessing

The reason

I speak

And thrive

 

I’m clear

In my bliss

Inviting you in 

Please hear this…

Take my hand

We will soar

Together.

 

 
LauraProbert

Laura Probert, MPT has practiced physical therapy over 20 years, is the owner of Bodyworks Physical Therapy and the author of “Warrior Love, A Journal To Inspire Your Fiercely Alive Whole Self,” and  “Living, Healing and Taekwondo.” 

She is a second degree black belt in Tae Kwon Do.  Through her brand of healing, writing and the martial arts, she hopes to inspire people to find their own inner warrior. 

Photo by: Val Cavalheri

 

Self-Improvement the Right Way

by Jen on October 16, 2014

Editor’s Note: this a guest post by Brianna Johnson.

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Can a fixation on self-improvement actually be a form of self-bashing?

It’s a counter-intuitive idea, but sometimes when we think we’re trying to improve ourselves, we’re really just trash talking ourselves.

The internet is surging with self-improvement tips, articles, books, speakers, you name it. If a problem exists, you can find a dozen solutions online. And while it’s great to have access to all of that information, self-improvement, like all things, can go into overkill.

Learning from other people is different from trying to be other people. There’s a passiveness to learning from others and their ideas. It’s the, “Oh, I never thought of that. Maybe I can incorporate some of that into my life.” Instead of the panicky, “Oh no, why aren’t I like that? I need to start being that way.”

When we see people who are successful in ways that we want to be successful, we should feel a sort of detached admiration, not an insistence on copying them. By detached admiration I mean learning from the ideas and strengths of others, without fundamentally changing who you are and how you think. You are somewhat disconnected from it, but in a healthy way. It can’t intimidate you. It can only help you.

Consider assertiveness, as a random example. People who are very assertive were often born assertive. They were the little second graders bartering for extra candy from the teacher while you looked on, probably rolling your eyes.

Sure, they reap the benefits of being assertive. But is it really self-improvement when we try to mold ourselves into those we view as “successful?” If a timid person coerces herself to be assertive, does she really reap any benefit? Probably not. On the contrary, she might set herself back, stress herself out, or worst of all- lose sight of what she’s good at. In cases like this, we’re trying to be a different person while calling it self-improvement.

On the other hand, real self-improvement would be to look at the people who have what you lack, and try to learn a bit from them. That helps us become well-rounded. It’s a slight nuance from the previous scenario, but it makes a huge difference. In the first scenario, we’re not respecting who we already are.

The simple fact is that all innate traits have benefits, even if you don’t see yours as valuable. The most valuable traits are not always the ones that get the most attention in society, but who cares? Mainstream society is typically behind in the learning curve anyway. Your innate traits are your strengths. If you aren’t reaping the benefits of your strongest traits, then you aren’t quite honoring who you are. If you neglect your strengths, other people won’t be able to recognize or benefit from them either.

The undeniable fact remains: all varieties of people can achieve success and do so every day. I’m positive that you can think of someone who is successful, and also very similar to you in nature. None of us were built defectively, and there’s no excuse as to why you can’t accomplish something that you really want.

So instead of badgering ourselves and wearing ourselves down with loads of self-improvement homework, why not cut to the chase?

Own up to yourself. Everyone has different flaws and strengths. If we didn’t, there’d be little reason to communicate with each other. We’d probably be living solitary lives, swinging from trees and eating bananas because language was never invented. Maybe.

So anyway, you’ll find success much faster by cultivating the strengths you have rather than the ones you think you should have.

“Not for nothing one face, one character, one fact makes much impression on him, and another none.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

For whatever reason, you are who you are. Work on self-improvement, yes, but don’t abandon yourself in the process.

 

BriannaJohnson

 

A puppy addict and synonym enthusiast, Brianna writes at The Absurdist Chronicles, a blog to help you exist better.

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