3 Quick Tips For A More Positive Mindset

by Jen on November 20, 2014

Editor’s Note: this is a guest post by Patrice Nicole Rivers.

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One positive thought can truly make a difference.


I’ve always had a tendency to think negatively, and doubt myself with thoughts like “What if I can’t?” or “I don’t know…” It’s been that way for years and I grew so used to it that the vibe and feeling of negativity became comfortable for me. Even when I applied to several jobs; at the end of completing my online application, I normally said “I probably won’t get the job.”

Negative thinking makes people feel miserable and stressed, but by having a positive mindset and thinking positive thoughts, you can have a better outcome. At the very least, if things don’t turn out the way you’d hoped, you’ll feel good knowing that you didn’t beat yourself up once again. Try living life to the fullest without allowing the darkness of your thoughts to get in the way. Here are three ways to get started on the path of a more positive mindset:


1. Self-talk

Positive self-talk is encouraging yourself by simply implanting and nurturing positive thoughts in your head. For example, “I will make today a good day.” When you constantly tell yourself this throughout the day, it’s already in your mind that you will have a good day.

2. Write it down

Write down positive things about your life, start a gratitude journal, or list all the things you love about yourself. When you do this, you are inviting happiness and more things to be grateful for into your life.

3. Surround yourself with positivity

Sometimes hearing somebody on TV or reading something inspiring will lift your spirits. My grandmother used to watch Joyce Meyer every morning; it was her daily inspiration to keep her mind focused and stay positive. At times it can be hard to stay on that positive path, and you will stumble, but all that matters is you keep at it. A lot of times, doing kind things for others can brighten your day; try giving an inspirational card, sending flowers, taking someone you love out for breakfast or dinner, or simply just speaking encouraging words when someone needs it most.

I remember a time in my life when I felt down, depressed, and plagued by negative thoughts. I wanted to give up on myself. This happened several times, but with the encouragement of my loved ones and peers, I began to pick myself back up again and surround myself with positivity.

Keep your head up, my sister!

 

Patrice Nicole Rivers

 

Patrice N. Rivers is an author, poet, blogger and columnist with a definite passion for writing. She is also a contributing writer for Our Voices – An Inspirational magazine for Women, and City Girl Magazine.

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All I want for you is happiness.

by Jen on November 13, 2014

you are loved.

All I want for you is happiness.

No matter what’s happened in the past.

No matter what was said or done.

No matter what happens next.

My hope for you is that you’re happy.

Not just happy…

Blissful.

Overflowing with gratitude.

Bubbling over with joy.

Ecstatic.

Electrified by life.

The kind of happiness that sees you grooving to your own tune in the kitchen while you cook dinner.

The kind of happiness that makes you smile with gratitude as you lay in bed at night.

The kind of happiness that makes you think “Everything that’s ever happened in my life, I’m grateful for… because it led me here.”

That’s what I want for you, honey.

Even if I never speak to you.

Never meet you.

Never even know your name.

I want you to be happy.

I want you to feel loved.

Not just on your good days.

But on your bad days too.

On the days you only know sadness, heartbreak and fear.

I want you to know you are loved.

You are enough.

You deserve happiness.

On the days you call yourself unworthy, weak, or ugly.

You are loved.

You are enough.

You deserve happiness.

On the days you feel hopeless, faithless and heartless.

You are loved.

You are enough.

You deserve happiness.

On the days you feel unseen, unheard and unloved.

You are loved.

You are enough.

You deserve happiness.

On the days your heart breaks, your dreams shatter and your strength wavers.

You are loved.

You are enough.

You deserve happiness.

On the days you feel alone, ignored and forgotten.

You are loved.

You are enough.

You deserve happiness.

On the days you frown at your reflection or call yourself names.

You are loved.

You are enough.

You deserve happiness.

On the days when you feel stressed, overwhelmed and out of control.

You are loved.

You are enough.

You deserve happiness.

Do you see now?

No matter what you think, say or do.

No matter what happens.

No matter what.

You are loved.

You are enough.

You deserve happiness.

Nothing will ever change that.

And, dear sister, I want to take this chance to tell you…

If we never meet…

Know that I’m sending you all my love.

Know that I only want happiness for you.

Know that I’ll always be your wild sister.

 

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