Five Life Lessons From Silver Linings Playbook


I finally watched Silver Linings Playbook the other day, and I can’t believe I waited so long to see it.

I laughed, I cried, I cheered for these amazingly raw characters and left feeling so damn inspired, I went and bought the book – which is just as good as the film.

As someone who’s always looking for empowering gems to learn from, this story is a treasure trove of inspiration. So many lessons can be found in both the film and the book, but here’s my top five (note: I’ll do my best to keep the spoilers away, but be warned, I might let some slip).

By the way, if you haven’t seen Silver Linings Playbook yet, go see it. Like, right now.

Five Life Lessons From Silver Linings Playbook:

1. Love your whole self.

One of my favourite moments in the film is when Tiffany (played by Jennifer Lawrence, my latest girl-crush) declares this:

“There’s always going to be a part of me that’s sloppy and dirty, but I like that. With all the other parts of myself. Can you say the same about yourself f**ker? Can you forgive?”

My heart skipped a beat when she said that, and I have to admit I had to restrain myself from fist-pumping the air and screaming “YES!”

It’s so damn good to see a real, strong female character who not only knows who she is, but loves who she is – even the darkest parts of herself. Amen, sister girl!

2. Always look for the silver linings.

I’m a huge believer in positive thinking and seeing the silver lining. One of the biggest lessons life has taught me is this: everything happens for a reason.

Even the hardest, suckiest times of my life have lead to the best times of my life.

There really is a lesson in everything, and there’s always a silver lining. Pat (played by the mind-blowingly talented Bradley Cooper) sums it up perfectly here:

“You have to do everything you can. You have to work your hardest. If you stay positive, you have a shot at a silver lining.”

3. Be kind, not right.

This gem is mainly from the book. Pat is working his hardest to improve himself, and one of the ways he’s doing that is by being kind rather than right.

I really admire that in him, and I have to say it’s made me stop and think, “Am I being right or kind here?” a few times over the past couple of days.

Something else that really stood out to me from the book that fits here is this quote from Pat’s therapist:

“You need to know it’s your actions that will make you a good person, not desire.”

While it’s awesome to really want to improve yourself and your life, it’s the action you take towards it that makes it a reality.

4. You’re never alone.

Both Pat and Tiffany are surrounded by people who are trying, in their own ways, to protect them and help them get back on their feet.

Look around you.

Notice the people who will always have your back, no matter what happens.

Maybe they’re your family, maybe they’re your friends, or maybe they’re people you’ve never even met before.

Take a moment to breathe in gratitude for every one of these people.

They are your tribe.

They might not look like or even feel like the kind of tribe you want sometimes, but they’ll be there when you need them most, and that’s what counts.

5. No-one has it all together, and that’s okay.

One of the most beautiful aspects about this story is that none of the characters has it all together. Not one.

I can tell you right now that I don’t have it all together, and I don’t know anyone who does.

Each and every one of us is a beautiful mess.
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We’re all doing the best we can.

I’m doing the best I can.

I know for sure that you’re doing the best you can, too.

And that’s okay.

You know what, screw ‘okay’.

It’s perfect.



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