What I Learned About Love From Ellen

“Here are the values that I stand for: honesty, equality, kindness, compassion, treating people the way you want to be treated and helping those in need. To me, those are traditional values.”

~ Ellen DeGeneres


Yesterday, Mike and I woke up at 4.30am, got dressed, drove to my Mum’s house to get her and my little brother, and together we drove into the city to claim our spot in the audience at Melbourne edition of The Ellen DeGeneres Show.

We, and thousands of others, gathered on the green grass in Birrarung Marr Park as the sun rose and braved the heat of the morning to see Ellen and her amazing team.

We laughed, we danced and had so much fun – it really was a once in a lifetime experience.

I’m a huge fan of Ellen, I watch her show everyday and I’m always inspired by her positivity, kindness and generosity. Her energy and attitude flowed through the crowd the second she walked on stage. It was amazing!

Ellen taking a selfie with the crowd. I’m up the back somewhere. Via Ellen’s instagram.

At the end of the show Ellen held a Q+A and, when asked who inspires her, she said her wife, Portia.

Ellen continued by saying, She is the kindest, most compassionate, most brilliant, most beautiful human being I have ever met in my entire life.”

I listened to her swoon over her wife while I stood in the 5,000 strong crowd (another 5,000 were in the riff-raff area, making this the biggest crowd Ellen had ever seen – go Melbourne!) and I realised I had never seen a couple more in love.

Ellen and Portia have the kind of love that people dream of.

The kind of love that leaves you reaching for their hand whenever you can and lighting up whenever you see their smiling face.

The kind of love that still gives you butterflies even after years of being with them everyday.

The kind of love that makes you think, “If this can happen to me, then maybe all my other dreams are possible, too.”

The kind of love that inspires you to be a better person and believe in a better world.

The kind of love that makes this world a brighter place for everyone.

I have that kind of love.

I feel blessed to be in love with my best friend every single day.

I know how lucky I am to have Mike in my life.

But I had never seen what that kind of love looked like from the outside until I saw Ellen and Portia standing on that stage.

It glows.

All 10,000 of us could see it, feel it, and were inspired by it.

It’s as real and as true and as beautiful as love gets.

And yet it’s not recognised by the law.

I don’t usually write about politics or anything like that here. I’m not doing this to be an activist or to ruffle anyone’s feathers, I’m doing this because I believe in love.

I believe in equality.

I believe that this world needs love more than anything else.

I stand for love. I stand for equality. Wild Sister stands for love and equality, too.

Equality is inevitable. I know that a time will come when the world will realise that love is love, no matter what it looks like.

How do I know this? Because we, as humans, are evolving. Don’t let the news fool you, people are becoming kinder and more conscious by the day. The world is changing.

We only need to look at history to see this fight has been won before, many times in fact. Whether it’s about equal rights for women, people of different races or for interracial marriage, when you strip it down to it’s core it’s all about the same things:

Equality, acceptance and love.

I know for sure that if love doesn’t win today, tomorrow or even ten years from now, it will win.

If the people making these decisions don’t choose love today, their children will choose love twenty years from now.

The children of today will come in and pick up the pieces of their parents’ judgements and use it to build something they can be proud of instead.

Or, we can choose love now.

It’s sad to know that there are people who can’t see past the gender of two people in love. They’re missing out on witnessing the pure beauty of the love itself.

It’s time to look past the superficial, don’t you think?

Love is love.

Seeing Ellen declaring her love and admiration for her wife so easily and openly inspired me more than I can say.

I’ve often wanted to talk more about love here on the blog and in my real-life conversations, but stopped myself.

I thought it looked weak to swoon over my husband.

Maybe because I couldn’t reconcile being a strong independent woman with being head-over-heels in love.

Maybe it was because I remember how my single friends would roll their eyes whenever my coupled friends would talk about their boyfriends.

Either way, I’m breaking the habit.

Life’s too short to not celebrate love whenever we can.

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Watching Ellen swoon over her wife made me realise that being in love isn’t a weakness, it’s a strength.

Showing love doesn’t make you corny, foolish or cliched, it’s the bravest thing you could ever do.

I love Mike.

He’s my best friend, he’s my soulmate, and he makes me happier than I’ve ever been in my entire life.

He’s my favourite person in the world.

No matter what happens in my life, if he’s by my side, I know I’ll be happy.

I hope everyone is blessed enough to find a love like this.

And when you do, share the love.

Tell the world.

And if your love isn’t recognised by the law yet, remember that love is louder.

Remember that love always wins.

“Compassion and love are not mere luxuries. As a source of both inner and outer peace, they are fundamental to the continued survival of our species.”

~ His Holiness the Dalai Lama


 In love,



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