“There is a voice inside of you
That whispers all day long,
‘I feel that this is right for me,
I know that this is wrong.’
No teacher, preacher, parent, friend
Or wise man can decide
What’s right for you – just listen to
The voice that speaks inside.”
~ Shel Silverstein
A looooot of people are out there trying to figure out what’s right for them right now. I’ve seen it everywhere, and I’m even wondering it myself.
We’ve all heard this; all the answers you need are already within you.
Yes, it’s true.
But how do we find those answers?
Sometimes it feels like they’re locked away in some secret treasure chest deep inside, with a jungle of doubts, worries and insecurities blocking our way to it. Which is probably why we spend so much time looking outside ourselves for the answers – it’s so much easier to just ask someone else than even attempt hacking away at that jungle of doubts!
I have a process I like to use for these situations. It always brings me the clarity I need to go after what I really want.
For example, let’s say you’re trying to choose the right career for you. You’ve narrowed it down to two things you’re passionate about; becoming a health coach or a graphic designer. You can’t decide between the two.
You’ve asked people you love and trust for their opinions. You’ve googled and researched ’til your eyeballs dried up. You’ve written all the pros and cons of each option and even asked professionals in both fields for advice. After all this, you still can’t decide what’s right for you, and it’s frustrating as all hell.
First of all, it’s okay. Plenty of people have been where you are, myself included. Here’s what I do to help me figure out what’s right for me and my life.
1. Get Offline + Outside
It’s so easy to get lost in researching what’s right for you online. You get sucked into a vortex of possibilities, opinions, reviews, stories and buzz words. While taking time to research your options and learn more before you take the leap is a smart idea, it’s easy to over-do it and get stuck gathering information – and there’s always new info to collect, so it never ever ends! Ahhh!
We get so bombarded with information that our own inner knowing gets drowned out by the hype. We forget that we have all the answers we truly need right inside of us. We ask the people around us for their opinion, which can often be helpful, but can also only confuse us more.
The cure for overwhelm? Action.
But how do you take action when you’re feeling pulled in opposite directions?
Here’s my first tip: get off the damn computer.
Put on your running shoes and get your butt out the door. Go for a walk. Find a park or a beach or somewhere where nature thrives, and soak up the peace.
2. Breathe + Connect
Breathing becomes easier when we’re out in nature.
Sit under an oak tree or stand in front of the ocean, and see how huge and vast they are. Let them remind you that the world is a beautiful place and your time in it is finite, so the only real task in your life is to enjoy it.
If that realization alone doesn’t make your stress melt away, try this: close your eyes, take slow deep breaths, and feel the breeze on your skin. Feel the earth under your feet. Then open your eyes, look up at the sky and smile.
Remember that the Universe is supporting you every step of the way.
Release your stress to the stars and ask God, Goddess, Ganesha, Angels, Higher Self, Spirit, Cosmos, whatever you believe in, to heal it for you. Feel your connection with the Universe, it’s always there.
3. See + Feel
Once you feel calm and connected, close your eyes again and ask yourself what’s right for you.
Now, this is the most important part: listen.
Listen to what your soul / gut / heart / intuition tells you. Feel your truth bubbling up inside you, and embrace it – even if the answer scares you.
If you’re still confused about what to do, use your imagination. Going back to the example of choosing between health coaching and graphic design, visualize yourself doing each one.
Imagine yourself setting up your business, working on your passion. How does it make you feel? See yourself coaching clients towards better health or creating colorful designs on your laptop. Go through each one visually, and take note of how you feel during the visualization.
Then, ask yourself these questions:
Which option made me come alive?
Which visualization lit me up?
Which one made me smile the most?
Which one felt like home?
By now, you should have your answer.
If you’re still feeling scared, that’s okay. In fact, it’s totally normal. But fear doesn’t mean stop. Follow what makes you come alive, even if it scares you.
And, if you’ve done all this and you still can’t decide what’s right for you, repeat the steps. Or, find out a way to do both! There’s no rule that says you can’t be a health coach and a graphic designer! You could even be a health coach for graphic designers, or a graphic designer for health coaches – hello, niche market!
If you’ve been torn between a few different possibilities lately, I hope this helps you find the clarity you’ve been looking for.
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